‘I Like Being Single’ & Other Lies Single People Tell Themselves

“Why am I single?”

I can answer that question for you: it’s because you keep making excuses for yourself! You could totally be in a relationship if you wanted to.

In fact, us singles make so many excuses that I was able to compile a list of eight things single people say to help us sleep at night.

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1. I’m focusing on my work.

Whenever I heard this when I was in college, I couldn’t help but laugh. While it is true to some extent, let’s be real: org work and acads could definitely wait for the right person.

I suppose it does apply to some people who can’t even get six hours of sleep a day. But if you find yourself with a lot of free time, then maybe you should stop using “work” as an excuse. Just find another one!

2. No one likes me.

This is a line usually said by your most beautiful friends, and it’s code for “no one cute likes me”.

If this is your go-to excuse, then you probably actually know someone who likes you. There’s just one tiny issue: they’re not your type!

I’ll admit, when you say this, it’s a bit annoying to hear for uglier people like us. But TBH, that’s our problem. We should be happy for you for not settling for less… we guess.

3. It’s just not the right time.

Out of all the things single people say, this one is probably the worst. Is there even such thing as “the right time” to be in a relationship?

This excuse sounds profound, and yet somehow, it almost always makes sense. You’re going on summer break, you’re entering a new stage in your life, you’re graduating, you’re joining a cult, your dog ate your homework…

Look: there’s never gonna be a right time because there will always be an excuse if you go looking for one. Maybe now is the right time to reflect on yourself and why you’re too scared to take a leap.

4. I’m not good enough for them.

This is a lie that only you yourself believe, because it’s just not true! We know you are handsome, beautiful, kind & smart enough for somebody out there.

It might be impossible to change how you see yourself in a matter of days. But trust me when I say that the right person will make you feel like the best version of yourself. You just gotta go out there and find them.

5. I like being single.

Ah yes, it’s the excuse to end all excuses. This one is tricky because it can be a truth or a lie depending on the time of day. Okay, I’ll give it to you: it is awesome being single. Most of the time, you legitimately enjoy living life and doing things by yourself.

But then you put on that romcom or talk to a friend in a committed relationship, and it just makes you sad hoping that love is out there for you.

Then you suddenly find yourself asking those dreaded four words: why am I single?

On that note, I don’t think you’re allowed to use this as an excuse if you haven’t been in a relationship in your entire life. How do you know you like being single when you haven’t even tried out being with someone yet?

That’s right, I’m calling you out!

6. I’m gonna miss out so much on life.

Raise your hand if you’re a commitment-phobe! This excuse is the best example of “getting way ahead of yourself”.

I’ve talked with many friends who got into a relationship in their late teens/early twenties. They all told me that they had the exact same fear as they got together with their SO. But do you know what they always end up saying? That they do not regret their decision to commit to their SO whatsoever.

Honestly though, why would you rob yourself of happiness today?

Don’t overthink this, zoomer. Because you know what, you’re also missing out a lot on life by staying single.

7. I’m independent.

This is one of the common things single people say: yes, you probably are a strong independent woman (or man) who don’t need nobody… but so what?

Being independent doesn’t mean you shouldn’t get into a relationship. In fact, it’s the opposite!

It gets exhausting picking yourself up all the time; one of these days, you are going to crumble. By having another person constantly on your side, you will be able to remove the weight off your shoulders, and actually breathe.

There are just some things in life that are easier with somebody behind you. And sometimes for independent folks like us, we need to be reminded that life isn’t a one-man journey — it has so much more happiness to offer.

8. I don’t know how.

I get you… I get you so much. As a socially-awkward dork, I literally couldn’t flirt with someone even if my life depended on it!

There’s just a learning curve to the whole relationship thing that not everyone can adjust to easily. You’d have to know a lot about feelings, conflicts, dating & sex to name a few. Unfortunately, some of us failed to learn these crucial lessons when we were a tad younger.

I guess being in a relationship is just really trial-and-error though. Is anyone really prepared to enter one?

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If you find yourself saying any of the quotes above, then you should re-evaluate your life choices. And I say that with only your best interests at heart.

Sometimes, these things single people say are actually true. More often than not though, it’s really just your fear and uncertainty getting the best of you. So ask yourself: is it an excuse or is it something much deeper?

What absurd excuse have you heard somebody tell you about why they’re single? Drop it in the comments below! Don’t forget to share this article on Facebook.

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